Experience is not only what we learned—it's how we felt about the effort.

When I asked my wife to build the website for my new book, I watched the blood drain from her face.

She's built them before. That was the problem. Experience, oddly enough, had made her a bit of a luddite.

What happened next surprised us both—and changed how I think about experience itself.

Yesterday's experience is not today's experience.

"I don't care—I like it."

That was the response when my wife pointed out to an old friend that the political meme he'd just shared on Facebook was clearly false.

The moment stuck with me. It's the attention economy in miniature—not truth, not understanding, just whatever feels good in the scroll.

This is about what we lose when we let our feeds do our thinking for us—and what it might look like to take some of it back.